This morning I read Sheryl Sandberg‘s post sharing her thoughts and feelings 30 days after the passing of her husband Dave Goldberg. Sheryl is the COO of Facebook and Dave was most recently CEO of SurveyMonkey.
It’s a great post all around and I recommend you read it all. But if there’s one piece which will stick with me it’s this:
“I was talking to one of these friends about a father-child activity that Dave is not here to do. We came up with a plan to fill in for Dave. I cried to him, “But I want Dave. I want option A.” He put his arm around me and said, “Option A is not available. So let’s just kick the shit out of option B.” “
We’ve all had Option A’s that we had to learn to let go of. I’ve had my share, and know that I will continue to do so in the future. And I’m sure you’ve had your’s. It’s part of life.
As Sheryl experienced, sometimes Option A is no longer available.
At other times you’re forced to pick what appears to be Option B even though you want Option A. It may turn out to really be Option B, or, if you’re lucky, you may realize that what you thought was Option B was actually Option A.
No matter what you’re faced with, whether it’s Option A, Option B, or something later in the alphabet, it’s up to you to decide whether you’re going to complain or just kick the shit out of it.