When I was younger, I used to believe in doing what you believe is right at all costs, even if you knew or thought that there was a high probability that it would damage a relationship.
As I grew older, I first began to question whether always doing what you believe is right at all costs is the right approach to life.
And more recently I’ve concluded that it isn’t.
Sometimes the benefit of doing what you believe is right is small. On the other hand, its cost in terms of the damage that it has on a relationship is large. When this is the case, I now believe that it’s worth forgoing what you believe is right to preserve the relationship.
I can think of two reasons for the change in my approach. The first is that I’ve been sufficiently burned by doing what I believe is right to justify the change. The second is that most people have a tendency to value relationships more as they age and therefore face their relationships’ and their own mortality. This is certainly the case for me.
In addition, prioritizing the relationship in the short term often increases your chances of getting to what you believe is right in the long term.
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