I came across the post below on Twitter this morning. Basically, it states that the unique character traits that made you different, and that you perhaps even wished you didn’t have, as a child are also the ones that, if applied correctly, are likely to be your unique strengths that make you succeed as an adult.
the differentiated quirks you tried to suppress as a youth are the same ones you want to be most pronounced in adulthood
— Jason Jacobs (@jjacobs22) September 12, 2015
As a child, I was very quiet in class. In fact, my teachers’ most common complaint was about my class participation. Now I realize that while others were talking, I was observing their actions. Reading people and the implicit messages behind their explicit actions is an important asset in my current role.
After school each day, I would either have practice for a sports team, or come home to study from the class books that my parents had brought over from Turkey to our home in Belgium. The material taught in Turkish schools was much more challenging than that taught at my school so it required long hours of study. While my peers would go home and have plenty of free time, my schedule was always packed. This helped me learn to be disciplined. Today, this discipline manifests itself in my daily writing of this blog, my exercise schedule, and many areas of my work.
And I rarely went out on Friday or Saturday nights. While most of my peers were partying, I would prefer to stay at home to read and think on my own. In middle school, I thought that going out made me cool so I actively forced myself to do so. But come high school, I realized that I was doing so not because I enjoyed it, but to fit in. I started going out much less. My enjoyment of reading and independent thinking turns out to be a very important asset for an investor.
You can either try to change yourself to try to fit what you believe the world wants, or find the unique role in the world that fits you. If you want to be happy and increase your chance of being successful, I recommend the latter.